Are You Wondering If You Have Chosen The Right Soulmate/ Other Half? How To Know If The Person You Are In A Relationship/ Union With Is The Right One For You?

The Definition Of A Soulmate: A person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.

The Definition Of A Union In This Statement: A state of harmony or agreement.

In any relationship one should try their best to stay away from anything or anyone that brings friction to their lives. Friction can be described as anything that causes a disturbance or creates tension. A disturbance is when one is in a certain state of peace or happiness that is ruined by sadness or grief.

The people that one should attract himself to, are the ones that do not cause friction purposely. The key word here is purposely. One that is not willing to find ways to keep a peaceful union, is one that do not care enough for your happiness.

A person should not love you more than themselves but they should be willing to love you as equal to themselves. A person that says they love you equally as themselves but causes friction frequently is lying.

They are lying because if they do indeed love themselves, they would treat you how they would like to be treated. If the person is telling the truth, then that means that they do not love themselves enough or do not know how to love themselves, inorder to love you. Therefore they will not know how to love you. You can tell if they are truthful by them willing to work on the downfalls that you bring to their attention. If they are willing to learn and listen, they are telling the truth. If they still do not understand, it means that they do not know how to properly love, or it can be a mental disorder. Some people catch on to things differently. Some take longer than some, and some may be a little extra push or explanation.

This disorder can be cause by lack of knowledge in certain areas of life. It can be cause by physical or emotional trauma. A lack of love growing up can be a main factor also. The person hasn’t seen love or have felt love.

You can choose to stay with this person if they are telling the truth, but they have to be willing to work on creating less friction in your life for overall.

In A Relationship/ Marriage, a perfect union would be someone that is able to love themselves. If they know how to love themselves that means they can learn to love you. It means that they took the time out on themselves to learn and grow on their own to create love to grow for themselves. Through the good and bad they mastered there worth and love towards themselves. If they can do this for themselves, this means that they are just as capable of learning how to love you.

A person that does not allow you to do the things you enjoy is not meant for you. Stopping you from things that are bad for you means that they are showing you love. But if the things you like are not bad for you, then they are showing you deceit. The right one would always want to see you happy. If one does not want you to do the things you enjoy, that means they do not care to see if you are happy. As long as you are free to do what you want to do for fun, you can learn to adjust.

A perfect match would be if the one you picked would do the things you enjoy with you. If they do not participate, that does not mean they do not love you or themselves. It just means that everyone is different and everyone shows love in different ways. Some people are shy in love, some are scared of hurt, some are quite, some are loud, some are dull, some vibrant and some afraid of the plubic or large crowds etc etc.

The wrong person for you would be the person that do not allow you to grow. They do not see or believe in your dreams. They will not participate in the things you like or bring you into the things they like. They would always be tired when you want to do something fun. They will be quiet when you ask to start a random conversation. They would tell you that they do not know what to talk about or that it is hard to think of something to talk about. They will even go out with friends but not with you. Sometimes they won’t even allow you to go out with your friends.

The ones for you would be the ones that will believe or try to see your dreams. Even if they do not believe in your dreams, they will allow you to do you. They would not stop you. They might try or ask questions but will go back to minding their business. This can cause friction but one can learn to adjust by doing what he or she likes with another or alone.

The perfect match would be one that not only allows you to grow, but also one that invest in your growth. This can be by them asking “How Is That thing going” or “can I join in”. Friction would be little because they will both go out of their way to invest energy into each other.

If someone is not allowing you to grow, they are basically forcing you to become them. You are not them!… You are you. Make sure you do not settle for anyone less than your worth. Your worth is not only someone that loves you how you want to be loved but love can be someone that simply loves you like they love themselves. They can simply only provide you with what they can offer to themselves and in their world it is alot and most of the time, their everything. If it is not alot in your world then you have the choice to find love that matches how you love yourself.

Finding someone that can love you as much as you love yourself is harder than finding someone that can love you as much as they love themselves. You can learn to fill in the holes you feel or you can keep working on yourself to attract someone that loves themselves so much that it matches you energy to how you love yourself.

Love should not make you feel sad more than it makes you feel happy. The good moments in love should over power the bad moments. Love should not feel and or be emotionally or physically abusive. Sometimes love is as equally bad as it is good. This can put a toll on the couple in the long run.

Physical Abuse is any intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person or animal by way of bodily contact. Hitting, spitting and choking on someone is considered physical abuse. Sexual abuses is also highly offensive in any relationship. According to Wikipedia Sexual abuse, also referred to as molestation, is a abusive sexual behavior by one person upon another. It is often perpetrated by using force or by taking advantage of another in a sexual nature.

According to Emotional abuse is a way to control another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate another person. In general, a relationship is emotionally abusive, when there is a consistent pattern of abusive words and bullying behaviors that wear down a person’s self-esteem and undermine their mental health.

If you are going through any type of abuse, it is not ok for you to stay. You are not at fault and you do not deserve it. You are strong enough to leave!

If you are being sexually assaulted please call the National Sexual Assault Hotline. It is free, Confidential and 24/7. The # is: 800-656- 4673

Information may very by State & or Country. Please do further research to find your local hotline if it’s not stated on here. Please proceed to call the number that’s provided for help.

If You are being physically abused please call your local law enforcement office.

A updated 2021 list will be provided below by Please look for your individual countries emergency hotline. If proper hotline isn’t found, please do and further your own research.

Country Police Ambulance Fire
Afghanistan 119 112 119
Albania 129 127 128
Algeria. 1548 14 14
American Samoa 911 911 911
Andorra 110 116 118
Angola 113 112 115
Anguilla 911 911 911
Antigua And Barbuda 911 or 999 911 or 999 911 or 999
Argentina 911. 911 911
Armenia 112 or 911 112 or 911 112 or 911
Aruba 911 911 911
Australia 000 000 000
Austria 112 or 133 144 122
Azerbaijani 102 103 101
Bahamas 911 or 919 911 or 919 911 or 919
Bahrain 999 999 999
Bangladesh 999 999 999
Barbados 911 911 911
Belarus. 102 103 101
Belgium 101 112 112
Belize 911 911 911
Benin 117 112 118
Bermuda 911 911 911
Bhutan 113 112. 110
Bolivia. 911 911 911
Bosnia And Herzegovina 122 124 123
Botswana 999 997 998
Brazil 190 192 193
British Virgin Islands 911 or 999 911 or 919 911 or 919
Brunei 993 991 995
Bulgaria 112 or 166 112 or 150 112 or 160
Burkina Faso 17 112 18
Burundi 117 112 118
Cambodia 117 119 118
Cameroon 117 119 118
Canada 911 911 911
Cape Verde 132 130 131
Cayman Islands 911 911 911
Central African Republic 117 1220 118
Chad 17 2251-4242 18
Chile 133 131 132
China 110 120 119
Colombia 123 123 123
Comoros 17 772-03-73 18
Cook Islands 999 998 996
Costa Rica 911 911 911
Croatia 192 194 193
Cuba 106 104 105
Curacao 911 912 911
Cyprus 112 or 199 112 or 199 112 or 199
Czech Republic 158 155 150
Denmark 112 112 112
Djibouti 17 19 18
Dominica 999 999 999
Dominican Republic 911 911 911
DR Congo 112 118 118
Ecuador 911 911 911
Egypt 122 123 180
El Salvador 911 132 913
Equatorial Guinea 114 115 112
Eritrea 113 114 116
Estonia 112 112 112
Eswatini 999 977 933
Ethiopia 911 911 911
Falkland Islands 112 or 999 112 or 999 112 or 999
Faroe Islands 112 112 112
Fiji 911 911 911
Finland 112 112 112
France 17 15 18
French Guiana 112 112 112
French Polynesia 112 112 112
Gabon 1730 1300 18
Gambia 117 116 118
Georgia 112 112 112
Germany 110 112 112
Ghana 191 193 192
Gibraltar 199 or 112 or 999 190 or 112 or 999 190 or 112 or 999
Greece 100 166 199
Greenland 112 112 112
Grenada 911 911 911
Guadeloupe 112 112 112
Guam 911 911 911
Guatemala 110 128 122
Guinea 117 18 442-020
Guinea Bissau 117 119 118
Guyana 999 999 999
Haiti 114 116 115
Honduras 911 195 198
Hong Kong 999 999 999
Hungary 107 104 105
Iceland 112 112 112
India 112 112 112
Indonesia 112 112 112
Iran 110 115 125
Iraq 112 122 115
Ireland 999 or 112 999 or 112 999 or 112
Isle of Man 112 or 999 112 or 999 112 or 999
Israel 100 101 102
Italy 112 112 112
Ivory Coast 110 or 111 or 170

For emotional abuse you can find a local therapist near you, using Google search. Reaching out to family members and friends is also advised. For online help you can reach out to the or text HOME to 741741 if you’re in crisis. If you or someone you know are being mentally and emotionally abused, the National Domestic Violence Hotline offers 24/7 confidential and anonymous help by phone, text, or online chat. They can also assist in finding a shelter and other services.

Information may very by State & or Country. Please do further research to find your local hotline if it is not stated on here. Please proceed to call the number that’s provided for help.

Good Luck!

– Abigail

Hey Guy’s, It’s Been A While. I Know I Haven’t been On Here Much This Year. Wishing Everyone A Happy Holiday’s.

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11 thoughts on “Are You Wondering If You Have Chosen The Right Soulmate/ Other Half? How To Know If The Person You Are In A Relationship/ Union With Is The Right One For You?

  1. Thank you for sharing!!.. I generally follow my heart as it seems to know best, rarely go wrong… “You don’t love the person you can live with, you love the person you cannot live without” (Author Unknown)…. 🙂

    Have a Happy Holiday filled with love and until we meet again..
    May your day be touched
    by a bit of Irish luck,
    Brightened by a song
    in your heart,
    And warmed by the smiles
    of people you love.
    (Irish Saying)

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